Dannyboy

Years ago when I was working my way up the ladder in a hospital, a particular department head impressed me as an asshole. He threw his authority around in a most offensive way. When offered a promotion I refused to accept a position under his direct authority. There was a pretty and sexy secretary who often occupied my masturbatory fantasies. It became known that this asshole began to sexually harass her. She reported him to his superior and to HR and things quieted down. About a year later he started the harassment again and was promptly fired. That was a long time ago when it was risky to complain. I was proud of her and the decisive action in firing him. He was given a chance to be a good boy but he fucked it up and got bounced. Many years later in the legal system I had access to his Estate file after he passed away. I remember thinking that finally he had to answer to a higher authority. Too bad the Fortress didn't exist then. He might have been taught a little respect. Dannyboy

Lonewolf: You worried us. Next time you go to a hospital please list the Fortress as the authorized contact. May you live long. I have no desire to become the oldest Fortress client. Thanks for checking in. Dannyboy

Dear Ms. Katz: Recently I have had the same thoughts but too wrapped up in my own life to inquire just yet. Often members have inquired when regulars go silent and so have Mistresses on occasion. I am concerned but hope there is an explanation that will have us all relieved when Lonewolf checks in again. Thank you for your concern. Truly in character for a Fortress Mistress. Dannyboy

I've heard of professional disciplinarians and life coaches over a number of years. There are Mistress who can serve as life coaches or motivators, though I never asked a Mistress to act as a life coach or push me to some external goal. It may work for some, I do not criticize their existence or purpose. Dannyboy

Never is a long time. Many have gotten away with it and, I'm sure, there are some who believe themselves invincible even now. Time will tell but something has changed. Dannyboy

Dear Ms. Rey: The way you pose this question opens up a question in my own mind. It is easy to lie meaning lack of guilt or is it easy to lie meaning the lies are effective and undetected? My lies were necessary because of the overwhelming need to have the double life. My lies were so effective that I was able to carry on the double life for a very long time. Nothing lasts forever though. I'm not proud to have lied even though I may have boasted on these Forums about the risks I took. Dannyboy

UP: In my case I met and sessioned with the Headmistress before the Fortress came into existence. My kinky needs at that time were already well developed. I had kink in my mind long before ever sessioning with a Mistress. It is not uncommon, though, for a client to have vague feelings and the need to discover. You would do well to proceed with an open mind and a seeking spirit. The Fortress is a great place to learn more about yourself and find out what it is that you might truly desire. In my experience, Ms. Ree and Ms. Kang are highly perceptive and can match you reliably with the Lady best suited for you. You can take that first step with confidence. You will thank yourself later. Dannyboy

To answer the question directly I am not surprised. 30 - 40 years ago I was listening to a radio show and a criminologist was talking about sexual abuse. He said that the stereotype of a sexual abuser in not a drunken, slovenly reject of society who jumps out of an alley and abducts and rapes his victim - or someone who reads pornography and is otherwise perverted. What he said left a lasting impression on me. The sexual abuser is a person who, generally, is a respected member of the community because of his position, power or wealth. He went on to say it could be a scoutmaster, a priest, a rabbi, a teacher, a coach, a boss, an uncle, a politician, a lawyer et al ad nauseam. This has been going on for centuries. Most get away with it because they are privileged and the victim is weaker. Now we see that even the ones who preach morals, faithfulness, celibacy and respect do this despite their public positions. Most lie about it, attack their victims and believe that their power will protect them. I was aware of Bill Cosby's predilections in the '80's so I wasn't surprised when the victims brought it up years later. Very often women had to "play ball" to get ahead. When I see otherwise respectable people defend the perpetrators and see how female spokespersons in effect betray their own gender I should be surprised but I am not. Should anybody be surprised at this stage of the game? There are no values any more. There are only personalities who are attacked or defended but they are all pretty much the same. Dannyboy

manclawz: "...and this isn't everybody." Since you placed Bill Clinton on the list it's only fair to add Donald Trump. While we're at it you could add Bill Cosby and Michael Jackson. I'm not thinking of adding Mike Tyson; I think his conviction was unjust. Dannyboy

Jay: Happy Thanksgiving. I live in an area that has wild turkey, geese, deer and an occasional gorilla or two. My young lady wanted to pet them but I advised her not to. They are not domesticated animals. Sometimes they cross the road an expect cars to stop for them. A previous summer when I had a Mistress/friend stay over she saw some turkeys and took photographs. A few days later a turkey was splattered all over the road. I guess that was you driving? Dannyboy

I first met Ms. Kyoko circa 1998 when she was connected to Rebecca's Hidden Chamber. She sessioned under another name at that time. I sessioned with her at other dungeons thereafter when she became Kyoko. Last time I saw her was at Ms. Yin's place in lower Manhattan at a fundraiser for Nurse Noelle who was injured at a SMack party. I escorted Ms. Tigra to that event which was attended by most of the prominent Mistresses in the area. When Kyoko arrived Tigra was upset that my gaze was fixed on Kyoko. She didn't realize that I knew her well. As Kyoko passed by I greeted her in Japanese and she did a double take. I introduced Tigra to Kyoko and Kyoko introduced her male companion to us. Last I heard of Kyoko was that she was living in Los Angeles with the same male companion. That was several years ago. Dannyboy

Certainly the Lucy Liu of Charlie's Angels. The Raquel Welch of Fantastic Voyage. Ann Margaret of The Cincinnati Kid. Loved when Steve McQueen smacked her butt - hard. France Nuyen from South Pacific to Star Trek. Jessica Alba of Dark Angels. Dannyboy

Newman: For someone who has never sessioned before you seem to know where your primary interests lie. There is a phenomenon that I call "fantasy gap." You don't know how you will react, physically and mentally, to the activities you wish to experience. Fortunately a Fortress Lady will take your inexperience into consideration and help you discover the degree to which your fantasies can be realized. An untrained Mistress with a cane and a client with no caning experience can lead to a bad outcome. I would follow Ms. Kang's line of questioning. Dannyboy

Dear Ms. Kang: Exactly one week before our very first session I sessioned with Damiana Chi. Had I timed it a bit differently we could have included her sister Jezebel in the session. Many of my doubles sessions had the Mistresses roleplaying as mother-daughter or sisters. A long time ago there was a mother-daughter team out in Long Island. I never had the chance to meet them. Dannyboy

Dear Ms. Kang: I will try to answer to the extent that I am comfortable. First Mistress: Her initials were JK (not you of course.) My age: 24. I found her through a swingers magazine. There was no internet at the time. These magazines required mailings to a code number and the mailings were then forwarded to the advertiser. Screw magazine existed at the time as well. I chose to session with her because the opportunity presented itself at a time when I was available and when I finally had to guts to book a session. We sessioned in Manhattan in her apartment. She was caucasian and at least double my age. Even so, she was in good physical condition and certainly attractive. I never sessioned with her again but she appeared in that magazine for another year or two. Most likely she is deceased now. I did make a number of attempts prior to that to explore some aspects of BDSM with different ladies but this was the first full session with an official Mistress. I crossed the Rubicon at that point. In my future experiences there were a number of long-term connections to individual Mistresses spanning the rest of my life to date. Dannyboy

Dear Ms. Kang: This is a difficult question to answer because I'm sitting in a semi-public place and my experience with Mistresses runs for decades. I have sessioned with so many Mistress that I could not count them at this juncture. You are aware that a number of Mistresses were in my life concurrently during a phase of my life. Some of your questions might tend to incriminate me and work to my disadvantage the next time I show up to the Fortress so I will have to consider relying on my 5th Amendment rights. I will work on a better answer for later and state that you are the Greatest. Nothing will change that. Dannyboy

Hai! Jo o sama! I remember your posting about this a few years ago. About lying: I've had to lie about many sessions just to get out of the house. You are aware of the lie that always got me to the Fortress. Once I celebrated a birthday with a Mistress Involving dinner with 3 Ladies, karaoke and lots of drinking. The birthday Mistress called me the next day to tell me she lost her cell phone. My wife overheard a female voice and questioned me. My original cover story was a birthday dinner for a "club" member. I had to elaborate by saying that some of the guys brought a wife or a girlfriend and this one must have gotten my number from her boyfriend. She questioned why I didn't take her to this dinner and, of course, I said I didn't think you would like those people but I will be sure to ask you next time. Another time that same Mistress was having a late night photo-shoot in a hotel room. She invited me over to keep her from being alone for the few hours before the photographer arrived. What we did together I will not reveal here but when I got home I was given the 3rd degree about having a "girlfriend." My lie was that me and the guys were watching the NCAA brackets being selected and strategizing the picks to make in some of the pools we were entering. No names mentioned here Dannyboy

Dear Ms. Jin: I am an old dog. You can't teach me new tricks. I'm sure others will volunteer. Dannyboy

Dear Ms. Kang: I don't discuss my activities with anyone not in the scene. I have also been able to keep marks on my butt and sore nipples safe from being discovered. As you know, my secrets were discovered and destroyed the relationship which I thought would last forever. Only once did I ever broach the subject with a vanilla lady and she is the one who sessioned with us and with Ms. Rey. There is great value in keeping the S & M world almost entirely internal and cerebral. For me, having even an intellectual discussion with a denizen of the vanilla world about this subject is totally out of character. Dannyboy

tr.....: I'll leave it to the Mistresses here to reply as they wish. I've discussed this with Mistresses over time and could venture my own educated opinions. In my case I do not get pleasure from pain in a physical sense. There is more of a psychological need to purify my soul through the ministrations of an empathetic and understanding woman. Now don't ask me what I mean by that. Dannyboy

Dear Ms. Shankar: Although you are objectively correct and I would have posted the same response, to any male past adolescence, especially in college years, getting something in return is code for "sexual favors." Now if a Mistress wanted me to massage her back or her feet that would be an honor and a privilege. Dannyboy

AL: I would probably move in close and smother her punches. I would also clinch a lot - and hold on for dear life. Dannyboy

Dear Ms. Kang: Brings to mind a particular non-Fortress Mistress who mentioned an orthodox Jewish client who was humiliated by having her place bacon strips on his back while he crawled around the room. No discussion of forced consumption though. Forced consumption??? No double entendre intended. Dannyboy

Hmmmmm!! Does she wear a Freudian slip? Dannyboy