MisterWinerack

Thanks for your thoughts. This topic has gone from the emotional aspect to the technical. I think the technical side is clear but its the emotional side thats confusing as a sub. If a connection has been made, and its mutual, its hard to ignore regardless of the technical circumstances applied.

Interesting perspective and fascinating to read. I came to the fortress with a different view because I was sessioning for at 9 years before I discovered Mistress Kang and the Fortress. I was involved in several long term relationships with pro-dommes and I came to Mistress Kang with an open mind and the hope that my passion for bdsm could be rekindled. It has been an amazing experience, more intense and fulfilling than I ever could have imagined when I first set foot in the fortress. So while I have those feelings of insecurity and unfaithfulness in the past it has been missing from my fortress experience because of the open mind and spirit of Mistress Kang. She encouraged me to explore with different Mistresses and it has never felt like cheating. Yet whoever I see I always feel that Mistress Kang is my special Mistress without the slightest bit of conflict. Perhaps you will think differently with time but each of us has to learn from our own experiences. Thanks very much for the insight. It sounds as though you have actually found your Mother Mistress and at the same time in exploring and satisfying your own desires, you are satisfying those of Mistress Kang. The encouragement, openess, is refreshing and I hope, as you mentioned, that in time I will learn from these experiences and know what I desire and more importantly, know how to ask for it.

Mistress Ree, so you are suggesting that a sub express is feelings / connections to his Mistress to set the path to a monogamous relationship? Would that be during a session or before or after when the two really are not in "character"? I'm happy to read you think a sub can feel guilty for sessioning with another Mistress and I suspect no Mistress would really tell her sub that that she was upset with his actions but might you steer your next session with him down a more painful path? It seems that each situation is different and there are many factors to consider from both sides but most importantly, I am thrilled to hear that there are no jealousies with sub at the Fortress and that we can all tastes the many fine wines submitted for our enjoyment.

I love your wine analogy Mistress Ahn, hence my nickname (obviously). Anyway, its good to hear the different opinions and I hope you have not changed yours. Have any of you Mistresses actually had this kind of discussion with your subs in session - has it come up at all or not at all?

Thanks for the feedback guys. I really appreciate it. And I was thinking exactly that about the family and all sister Mistresses and such and most definitely thought about confessing / asking permission. Also thinking about a double Mistress session maybe where some time overlaps and have some alone time also. Thanks again. Wonder what the Mistresses think.

I am relatively new to the scene but thank goodness I found the Fortress early on. The few times I've been there have been great and I've walk away wanting more and more. Maybe its just me (and believe me I completely know who the players are and what they are doing as well as my place as only a client), but if you session with the same Mistress more than once, you do so because you had a fanatastic time that you want to experience again and again, its because you made a connection with your Mistress, no? Accordingly, does anyone feel guilty / weird (whatever) the first time they session with another Mistress at the Fortress? Are you cheating? I can't hope to think what a next session would be like and how much further my current Mistress would push the limits to top the previous session but at the same time, a new Mistress with different style, likes, needs, desires and it may turn out not so good - its all so confusing and I might feel bad. I'm sure I'm over thinking this but any thoughts / comments would be appreciated. MisterWinerack

WOW, from as much as I'd love to think I can handle a situation like that (and I can only imagine what was going on), I doubt I could and therefore in this case think fantasy is much better than reality. Yes, boy pussy comes to mind. sorry.