I can identify with the first 3-4 sentences AromaLover 21 wrote. Several years ago, I found myself in NYC and planned a trip to the Fortress. Sadly after walking around the city and going up and down the subway's, my knees had to remind me that I wasn't a teenager anymore like when I lived up there. Also the extreme cold got to this Florida boy. Therefore I decided a trip to the Fortress was out of the question. As it turned out I ended up with bronchitis, and had partial knee replacements. Now back to the post. When I have another trip up there, I will e-mail the Fortress a list of my interests, and let the Mistress take the lead. I don't think I should add dislikes, because that may limit my Domme or Domme's. Extreme hard limits are something else, I haven't decided how I would handle that. I think just letting go, and releasing total control over to the Dominatrix, is the only way to get a realistic experience.