The element of surprise is really important to me in sessions. Of course, some things require setting up and a short period of down time to do so. I appreciate when a submissive waits to see rather than trying to pinpoint exactly what is coming next for them. However, the urge to know what will happen to you is natural. The unknown is scary. I look at this as a form of trying to maintain some control. I urge my subs to let go and try not to scrutinize what I’ll be doing next. It’s a nice exercise in letting go.
I feel like I can usually sense the difference between what I mentioned above and a watchful eye that comes from admiration, which is always welcome.