Pomi

Different from each other, but both the book and the film are exceptional - The Power of One

Indeed, I think this was (at least in part) a dynamic I hadn't fully accounted for when I sessioned at FF. I didn't want a safeword, but hadn't fully appreciated that the Dom didn't know me for that to really work. As a result, everything remained far more tame (relatively speaking) than I had wanted and I never felt I was actually getting pushed. (To be fair, I made several other mistakes in setting everything up as well, and my disappointments are entirely my responsibility and in no way reflect on the fantastic Doms or facilities of the FF.)

Yes, and for the next time I'm in NY and can visit I will certainly keep that in mind. In this case I was asked at the start for mine, and indicated I did not want to have one. In this case that proved to be a mistake, as the lack thereof kept things less intense than I had intended. Regrettably, I did an extremely poor job of clarifying anything in real time, so that is entirely on me. Fortunately, however, Mistress Kang has been extremely gracious and provided some brief email responses which I feel will help facilitate for the future. For those who are regulars this probably will not come as a surprise, but for anyone thinking of trying the Fetish Fortress, I cannot stress enough the commitment to customer service.

Based on my visit I'd also consider whether not sessioning without a safeword might not be backfire for what you intend. I could be wrong about this, but reflecting on my visit to the Fortress think the mistresses held back much more than I'd hoped in part because I said I didn't want a safeword. Since it was my (so far) first visit, they were being (appropriately) cautious. Yet in retrospect, I wish I'd set things up much differently. Just something to consider.

I'm not one to go into specifics (at least not in the public forum), but for any other newcomers I simply want to note that the facility was top notch and the Mistresses lovely to behold (including Zito, who stopped by briefly).

Can one ever be truly prepared for such a situation? Indeed! I hope I am too... but also anticipate/dread that you will make sure I am not.

Oh geez! Well, you have now ratcheted up both my anticipation and anxiety regarding our forthcoming meeting… as I'm sure was intended! While “eager trepidation” seems an odd turn of phrase, that is indeed my current state. How could I not be eager to see you pleased and smiling? Impossible of course! Equally impossible, however, not to be trepidatious given the source of your enjoyment: my being sadistically toyed with and subject to your wrath… and with Mistress Katz only adding to my plight. So... in case I’m too mentally discombobulated to remember on Wednesday, please let me take the opportunity to thank you (both) in advance for understanding that: I mean well; accept that I need to be put in my place; and appreciate your diligence in making sure that I am!

Thanks for the responses guys. Lonewolf, your description makes me feel like I've made exactly the right choice(s) as far as the tone I had wanted! Now the waiting... which is getting more frustrating by the minute!

One week from today I'll be having my first FF session with Mistress Von Dietz, then being joined by Mistress Katz. It is with building anticipation/anxiousness and desire/dread that I am find myself thinking about the less than gentle ministrations I will be subjected to at their lovely hands!