philosophicalsub

Interesting. I guess that means being “degraded“ to the point of slavery would be a negative emotion for you, then? For me, I am willing to put up with some pretty negative things in sessions, but only in the service of things I consider very positive. In my ongoing role play with mistress Zito, my character is not at all happy with his “forced“ submission. But personally I couldn’t be more thrilled to be surrendering my control so completely to her. if there is something that I straight up don’t like in one of our sessions, that particular dislike is more than offset by the feeling of her control and power over me to make me do this particular unpleasant activity. is this a case of you want to feel something, anything, even if it’s bad? Or is there something in particular about ”being degraded to the point of slavery” that truly does appeal to you, even if there are one or two negatives that go along with it?

Thanks for the kind words. For me, an easy way to reserve a bit of dignity for your real life is to only really give up your dignity in a role-play. that way you can always tell yourself that it’s just your character who is being degraded. As for being broken, the way I experienced that was to resist until I couldn’t anymore. If I gave in too soon (and I did a few times) I could just tell myself that I was still in control. It’s definitely edge play, and definitely has risks, but I think it’s possible to start with small things. i’m sure there are other ways to experience it, but that’s the only one I can think of that would work for me.

The overarching theme of my play with Mistress Zito has been to be pushed to do things that were limits for me. I really love her forcing me passed where I would naturally go, though it is often on the verge of being completely overwhelming. Worshiping her feet has been an unexpected joy in the midst of that. I don’t have a foot fetish, but giving a foot rub is never something I would have described as a limit. So given that it’s neither something I am naturally drawn to, nor something I need to be coerced into, it never had any place in my fantasies, nor would I ever have occurred to me to request it. But as you say so well, CO, it can truly ground me in the midst of an intense session. It shouldn’t surprise me so much, how much I’ve enjoyed it, since I have always loved giving my mistresses pleasure. But few ways feel quite as submissive, nor seem to elevate the mistress more highly. Thank you so much, Mistress Zito, for introducing me to it.

Indeed. I can’t speak for all subs, but at least for me it is a huge turn on for a Mistress to choose an activity that I didn’t, or wouldn’t have suggested myself. I love knowing that I am fulfilling her desire instead of having a nagging doubt that she is merely humoring mine.

I really like how you articulated this. I have recently been exploring pushing my soft limits (or rather, having them forcibly expanded). It’s still very new to me. As you say, having the limits pushed feels important, somehow. The more difficult it was to have been pushed, the more meaningful the memory feels to me, and the more glad I am to have experienced it. Even if I was quite the opposite of glad at the time.

Congrats on your graduation from training! It’s nice to have a face to go along with all the fun forum posts. Your pics are just killer.