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Hi there, I'm in a loving, open and kinky relationship with a girl with whom I switch with (we don't really do D/s, it's more sadism/masochism). Since we started playing a few years ago I've always overused my safeword (when I'm bottoming), which both of us find really frustrating. I'm not sure why I can't "let go" - I used to be able to play quite hard (I was around 22 then, now I'm 34). Anyhow we were both wondering if seeing a professional might help, as my girlfriend said "like when you take your cat to the vet and it suddenly behaves itself". I read in another thread on here Mistress Katz (or Rey) saying how they sometimes implement "severe punishments" for overusing a safeword, and I'm wondering if that would work for my own problem?

I first became aware of the literature of Georges Bataille six or seven years ago, from a translator I knew. As a fan of French Literature, I took to him right away (and especially enjoyed his pervy scenes. ) Bataille's text "The Story of the Eye" can up in another thread, so I figured I would post a link to where you can read a number of his works: http://supervert.com/elibrary/georges_bataille/

Maybe it's my overactive imagination or my love of bond movies, but to me there's something amazing about predicament play--situations where through pain, suffering, and discomfort one may 'earn' a reward or avoid an even greater punishment. Part of it is the self-infliction I think, the idea that you're doing this to yourself and no matter how uncomfortable the outcome is, you only have yourself to blame. Either way, I was flipping through some old ebooks and such the other day when I came across a section all about this stuff (called "Passive Torture" in the book, Owning & Training the Male Slave by Ingrid Bellemare). I figure some of you might enjoy the read! ===== Passive Torture If the Mistress wishes to torture her slave with the minimum of effort then one of the following techniques can be employed. My favourite position of bondage is to have the slave straddle a stool on which can be placed a variety of objects designed to make life very uncomfortable. The slave's hands are bound tightly behind his back and his head harness is tied to a hook in the ceiling. Thus he is unable to move off the stool. Objects placed on the top of the stool include: • Triangular wooden block with a narrow flat edge at the top • Cylinder about 10 to 15 cm in diameter • Oversized butt plug With the triangle in place different items can be placed on the top edge. My favourites are; • Double strip of carpet gripper, side by side • Stinging nettles • Soft cushioned pad impregnated with itching powder The top edge of the triangular block is just a little too high so that having both feet flat on the floor is just too painful. In this position his perineum cock and balls are exposed to whatever rests on the top of the block. So to ease the discomfort the slave has to raise himself up on his toes. Time is the big enemy, since eventually his muscles tire and he must adjust his position to relieve the stress. But that causes new stresses and pressures so there needs to be another shift and so on. It creates a downward spiral where shifting position becomes more and frequent whilst his crotch is being assaulted by top of the block. When he gets to the point where he is shifting continuously he is properly 'riding the block'. It usually requires about 30 minutes torment to reach that point and during the build up time it is possible to have some very productive discussion with the slave regarding unsatisfactory elements of his servitude. Once he is fully riding it is virtually impossible to have a coherent conversation since the slave's mind is pretty much occupied in easing his distress. The time I make him ride depends on the infraction being corrected but it is never less than one hour. The use of carpet gripper, nettles, or itching powder is painful torture indeed. But it is very satisfying watching him struggle, legs spread wide, up on his toes. Sooner or later his feet tire and he drops only to find increased torture of the sensitive flesh between his legs. An hour like this is really severe punishment and is reserved for the most serious infractions of my rules or when I am feeling particularly sadistic. But it does no permanent harm and a session makes the slave very penitent. The punishment is made even more severe for the slave if the CBs are removed as there is then no protection for his balls and cock. The great thing about these punishments is that they require very little effort from me. In fact the only effort it requires from me is to make it stop. I can read a book, watch TV, and if the slave is gagged I do not even need to listen to his please for mercy. Another passive torture I set it up with the slave seated on the stool. His bound arms are chained to the ceiling hook and his scrotum to a heavy weight just resting on the floor. If no weight is available then a leg spreader with a chain from his balls to a central attachment point can be used to prevent him from rising. After about 15 minutes I take the stool away. The anguish in my slave's face is clear to see so I replace it five minutes later but with a couple of nettle leaves, itching powder or the drawing pins resting on the top. I then lie back on my bed to 'watch the show'. The slave is faced with two choices: • Raise himself up from the stool to ease the pain in his buttocks and put strain on his thighs and scrotum • Lower himself to the stool, and let the nettles etc. torture his buttocks I first set this up as a punishment because I was dissatisfied with the effort the slave was making when he pleasured me. As I spoke to him quietly explaining exactly what I required from him he became more and more distressed and when I let him down after 60 minutes there were tears streaming down his face. But he dropped to his belly and kissed my feet as I had trained him to do and the fervent desire to please me was like never before. I had the best tongue job ever and that aspect of his servitude improved from then on. He now knows exactly what will happen if I get less than maximum effort from his tongue. This kind of passive torture has now become one of my favourite techniques. It satisfies my sadistic side to watch the slave endure what is extreme discomfort. There is no effort needed on my part, no risk of damage to the slave and I can relax with a long cool drink. I can ring the changes by putting different items of discomfort on the stool and if he is blindfolded he will only discover what they are when his legs tire. A dental gag which forces the mouth wide open is very effective preventing the slave from making any recognisable sound. For the imaginative Mistress the possibilities are endless. =====

I have been quietly following the forum for a while, and it is clear that the ladies of the Fortress are beautiful, and talented in the ways of BDSM. One topic I have not seen discussed is predicament bondage - where you are tied in an uncomfortable position, but any movement causes additional pain. Which of the ladies excel in that type of play and what type of predicament to you enjoy?