What Lead You To BDSM?

[Mistress Zenobia Brinks]

Did Trump influence your interest in BDSM? If no, what did? What motivated you to book your first BDSM session?

 

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/dominatrixes-and-porn-sites-report-a-huge-bdsm-uptick-since-trump-became-president

[job1617]

I was always attracted to dominant women. I never knew this kind of world existed until college when I discovered online there was a whole community dedicated to BDSM. Though I was always turned on by it, I kept it inside for many years. I felt ashamed and embarrassed. Not until I worked up the courage to find a domme online that I felt comfortable with since I was a first timer. I took the plunge and never looked back. In fact my second session ever was at the Fortress back in winter 2008. Even though I travel a lot for work I never forgot the Fortress and have been coming more regularly in the past two years.

[Mistress Zenobia Brinks]

I was always attracted to dominant women. I never knew this kind of world existed until college when I discovered online there was a whole community dedicated to BDSM. Though I was always turned on by it, I kept it inside for many years. I felt ashamed and embarrassed. Not until I worked up the courage to find a domme online that I felt comfortable with since I was a first timer. I took the plunge and never looked back. In fact my second session ever was at the Fortress back in winter 2008. Even though I travel a lot for work I never forgot the Fortress and have been coming more regularly in the past two years.

Do you pursue dominant women in your personal life or is it something you only indulge in BDSM sessions? What sort of control do surrender to your domme?

[mrstone87]

My experience is similar to job1617's in that it took me years to come to grips with my feelings. I discovered the Fortress in either late 2011 or early 2012 ( I can't remember exactly). I came close to booking a session several times but never followed through. I think it was the IM chat tool that the Fortress used to employ that got me comfortable talking about my desires. Whether it was Mina Jung or Emma Ree at the other end of the messaging, the ladies never pressured me into coming in. What I didn't realize then but do now is that the Fortress is more interested in building long-term clients than one and done bookings. Still, I kept letting my feelings of guilt get the better of me. 

 

It wasn't until two years later, June 9, 2014 that I took the proverbial plunge. The day I booked my first session is one I will never forget. I was walking to my local CVS to drop off a prescription and, I felt this compelling urge to call and book my first session. I must have walked around the block for upwards of an hour before dialing the phone at 9:01 PM. The second Emma picked up the phone, I knew I made the right decision. Immediately hopped on the 126 NJ Transit bus the one that goes from Hoboken in NYC).  I'll never forget my feelings when the elevator opened I was told to go to the Pink Room and wait for Mistress Kang. My heart and mind raced. Needless to say, Mistress Kang made me feel comfortable right away. Not an easy task considering I had no idea what I was about the discover about myself. 

 

As for the details of my first session, I'll save those for another post. 

[wild willie]

My wife and I lived a D and D life. After she passed i found the Fortress have been a few times. A real life relationship yes i would do it again.

[Lonewolf]

MISTRESS BRINKS...Re:"What lead you to BDSM"...endlessly a most lustful desire to be with a BREATHTAKINGLY BEAUTIFUL FEMALE as an interactive SENSUAL PLAYMATE who shares your enthusiasm for the ultra erotic unspoken desires within us all and makes them a most THRILLING REALITY...Lonewolf 

[Mistress Zenobia Brinks]

My wife and I lived a D and D life. After she passed i found the Fortress have been a few times. A real life relationship yes i would do it again.

You're definitely one of the lucky few to have been able to share this lifestyle with your partner :-)

 

 

 

[Mistress Zenobia Brinks]

MISTRESS BRINKS...Re:"What lead you to BDSM"...endlessly a most lustful desire to be with a BREATHTAKINGLY BEAUTIFUL FEMALE as an interactive SENSUAL PLAYMATE who shares your enthusiasm for the ultra erotic unspoken desires within us all and makes them a most THRILLING REALITY...Lonewolf

You're here for the beautiful ladies! Nothing wrong with that :-) You're seem to be a man of many words, I like that.

[job1617]

Do you pursue dominant women in your personal life or is it something you only indulge in BDSM sessions? What sort of control do surrender to your domme?

I only pursue dominant women when I indulge in BDSM sessions. My professional life is a very demanding, high pressure, results driven environment. Luckily I have been successful by being a very take charge decisive person though that is not my real personality. I am very easy going.  I seem to thrive under pressure. Growing up was an almost exact replica of my career. When I session at Fortress I give up almost complete control to the Domme. I wish to make few if any decisions. My trust is that the Domme will know what is best for me. She will take control and I will feel safe. Even when I am being punished I feel a sense of safety. That is the kind of bond I look for in a Domme. It's not physical for me. It's mental. That bond is why I first pursued BDSM. 

[Dannyboy]

Did Trump influence your interest in BDSM? If no, what did? What motivated you to book your first BDSM session?

 

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/dominatrixes-and-porn-sites-report-a-huge-bdsm-uptick-since-trump-became-president

Dear Ms. Brinks:

 

I had an interest in S & M that was teased out of me by books, magazines and other input which I will not reveal here. I long desired to session with a dominant woman before the opportunity to have an actual session appeared. I never pursued dominant women in my vanilla life. It is relatively late in life that I have a connection with a young lady who understands my needs and participates with me privately and occasionally with Mistresses.

 

Dannyboy

[Mistress Zenobia Brinks]

I only pursue dominant women when I indulge in BDSM sessions. My professional life is a very demanding, high pressure, results driven environment. Luckily I have been successful by being a very take charge decisive person though that is not my real personality. I am very easy going. I seem to thrive under pressure. Growing up was an almost exact replica of my career. When I session at Fortress I give up almost complete control to the Domme. I wish to make few if any decisions. My trust is that the Domme will know what is best for me. She will take control and I will feel safe. Even when I am being punished I feel a sense of safety. That is the kind of bond I look for in a Domme. It's not physical for me. It's mental. That bond is why I first pursued BDSM.

I think this perspective is common for a lot of men in the submissive bdsm community, it's an escape from control.

[Mistress Zenobia Brinks]

Dear Ms. Brinks:

 

I had an interest in S & M that was teased out of me by books, magazines and other input which I will not reveal here. I long desired to session with a dominant woman before the opportunity to have an actual session appeared. I never pursued dominant women in my vanilla life. It is relatively late in life that I have a connection with a young lady who understands my needs and participates with me privately and occasionally with Mistresses.

 

Dannyboy

It's always great when your partner can participate, I do remember you mentioning books and magazines as your source under the fetish discovery thread. Do you still reference them now with your partner?

 

 

[AromaLover21]

I would have to say my fetish drove me to book my first session. While not being into domination as much as others I do enjoy it. To sitback and have someone else take control and see where they lead you. Throughout my relationships Ive been the dominant one so relinquishing that is fun and interesting. I figured why not take the jump and give the fortress a shot. It was one of the best decisions I could have made. Not only do I get to embrace the lovely wind you ladies give me, I experience other kinks I normally wouldn't think to.

[Jung's Jewboy]

I had an attraction to dominant females from a very early age but my earliest memories were from middle-school. There were 2 girls in a disproportionately female class that consistently would pursue me and bully me and I remember there being that feeling, on both sides probably, that we were doing something naughty even if we didn't know why or how.

 

The more imposing of the two kind of directed these episodes and her BFF ,a slighter petite girl seemed to be her 'hench girl'. Alot of me being made to kneel and look up at them and acknowledge that they were my betters. Alot of kissing their shoes and them sitting on me and punching me. Always ending with a warning that I better not tell anyone. These admonitions were reinforced by some very hard looks my way which I remember to this day. As I got older there were incidents with older girls who essentially 'molested' me. One girl stands out as she and her friend played strip poker with me. I was about 12 or so and she was almost 16. They both were better players and wore extra layers to avoid exposure if they hade a losing streak.

 

At one point I was fully naked and assumed the game was over but was told only they could end the game and that since I had nothing more to take off I would need to do whatever they ask. Essentially, I did both girls chores for that day with them ocassionally goosing me during a lull in their activities. More soon.

[Mistress Zenobia Brinks]

I would have to say my fetish drove me to book my first session. While not being into domination as much as others I do enjoy it. To sitback and have someone else take control and see where they lead you. Throughout my relationships Ive been the dominant one so relinquishing that is fun and interesting. I figured why not take the jump and give the fortress a shot. It was one of the best decisions I could have made. Not only do I get to embrace the lovely wind you ladies give me, I experience other kinks I normally wouldn't think to.

Have you incorporated any of the things you've explored at the Fortress in your relationships?

[Mistress Zenobia Brinks]

I had an attraction to dominant females from a very early age but my earliest memories were from middle-school. There were 2 girls in a disproportionately female class that consistently would pursue me and bully me and I remember there being that feeling, on both sides probably, that we were doing something naughty even if we didn't know why or how.

 

The more imposing of the two kind of directed these episodes and her BFF ,a slighter petite girl seemed to be her 'hench girl'. Alot of me being made to kneel and look up at them and acknowledge that they were my betters. Alot of kissing their shoes and them sitting on me and punching me. Always ending with a warning that I better not tell anyone. These admonitions were reinforced by some very hard looks my way which I remember to this day. As I got older there were incidents with older girls who essentially 'molested' me. One girl stands out as she and her friend played strip poker with me. I was about 12 or so and she was almost 16. They both were better players and wore extra layers to avoid exposure if they hade a losing streak.

 

At one point I was fully naked and assumed the game was over but was told only they could end the game and that since I had nothing more to take off I would need to do whatever they ask. Essentially, I did both girls chores for that day with them ocassionally goosing me during a lull in their activities. More soon.

Wow dominated by two girls at an early age. Did you enjoy it then or did it take some time?

[Dannyboy]

It's always great when your partner can participate, I do remember you mentioning books and magazines as your source under the fetish discovery thread. Do you still reference them now with your partner?

Dear Ms. Brinks:

 

I went through almost all of my S & M life without the desire to make a partner a participant in that life. I kept my sessioning secret as I believed I would be viewed as sick and perverted besides being a cheater. What I have now is unique and unprecedented in my life. We do not reference that kind of material although I have shown her the Fortress website. She listens intently to me when I tell her of session experiences and my personal secrets.  Somehow my words cause her to visualize those experiences as if she were present while they were happening.  She participates because she accepts my need to be in that world and her goal is to keep me happy. 

 

Dannyboy

[AromaLover21]

Have you incorporated any of the things you've explored at the Fortress in your relationships?

Hmm, somewhat. I guess you could call it light bondage. Aside from that it is pretty normal. I work my way around my lady.

[Mistress Zenobia Brinks]

Dear Ms. Brinks:

 

I went through almost all of my S & M life without the desire to make a partner a participant in that life. I kept my sessioning secret as I believed I would be viewed as sick and perverted besides being a cheater. What I have now is unique and unprecedented in my life. We do not reference that kind of material although I have shown her the Fortress website. She listens intently to me when I tell her of session experiences and my personal secrets. Somehow my words cause her to visualize those experiences as if she were present while they were happening. She participates because she accepts my need to be in that world and her goal is to keep me happy.

 

Dannyboy

She sounds like a great partner, can't wait to meet her :-)

[Mistress Zenobia Brinks]

Hmm, somewhat. I guess you could call it light bondage. Aside from that it is pretty normal. I work my way around my lady.

Nice, bondage always spices things up.

[Jung's Jewboy]

Wow dominated by two girls at an early age. Did you enjoy it then or did it take some time?

The best answer I can give is 'yes, but without any understanding of why'. I think females who have domme leanings at an early age have a radar for boys who are likely to or need to accommodate them.

 

It was a trend that was a thread through my early years. A posessive 'mean girl' in high school who was determined to keep her 'faithful little helper' in the friend zone. She thwarted and kyboshed my few attempts to form more mutually beneficial attachments. My summer job money paid for her prom dresses. Sad, huh?!

[Mistress Zenobia Brinks]

The best answer I can give is 'yes, but without any understanding of why'. I think females who have domme leanings at an early age have a radar for boys who are likely to or need to accommodate them.

 

It was a trend that was a thread through my early years. A posessive 'mean girl' in high school who was determined to keep her 'faithful little helper' in the friend zone. She thwarted and kyboshed my few attempts to form more mutually beneficial attachments. My summer job money paid for her prom dresses. Sad, huh?!

I don't think it's sad because it sounds like you enjoyed it too. Serving women you enjoy is an honor.

[Jung's Jewboy]

I don't think it's sad because it sounds like you enjoyed it too. Serving women you enjoy is an honor.

I have always thought so but at that age it was a harder path to walk though it wasn't in my nature to choose a different path.

[Mistress Zenobia Brinks]

I have always thought so but at that age it was a harder path to walk though it wasn't in my nature to choose a different path.

Well I'd love for you to serve me

[LiamD]

There are some really open-hearted sharings here. Thanks.

 

The "coming to grips with my feelings" has been so very well stated, I'll just say was also hot and bothered for years before my first in my late 20's.  And it took me years to start to open up in sessions. Wow, kind of tough to look back, but that was who I was, and what needed to go through. 

 

Imagine it started at 8 yrs. old.  I saw this carrot and epiphany came, wouldn't it be nice to put the carrot in hot water, and slowly slip it my butt.  Ha ha haha. Cracks me up.  True.