theDumbMule Posted November 25, 2017 Report Share Posted November 25, 2017 I have seen a number of professional disciplinarians offer life coaching services. Most do not consider themselves dommes since most of them just focus on spanking. The spanking they offer is both for fetishes and for resolving past wrongs. But many offer it with life coaching to help reach goals such as quitting bad habits, losing weight, motivation to advance in career etc. My question is has anyone tried life coaching in this manner? Did it work or help in achieving the goal? Did you stop with the service once the goal was achieved? I never tried this but was curious if this was effective or did it just end up as another way to satisfy a fetish on a regular basis. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaveslave Posted November 25, 2017 Report Share Posted November 25, 2017 I have seen a number of professional disciplinarians offer life coaching services. Most do not consider themselves dommes since most of them just focus on spanking. The spanking they offer is both for fetishes and for resolving past wrongs. But many offer it with life coaching to help reach goals such as quitting bad habits, losing weight, motivation to advance in career etc. My question is has anyone tried life coaching in this manner? Did it work or help in achieving the goal? Did you stop with the service once the goal was achieved? I never tried this but was curious if this was effective or did it just end up as another way to satisfy a fetish on a regular basis. This is truly fascinating, I had never heard of disciplinarian separate from a mistress. I definitely think I could be more motivated to eat better and exercise more if I knew I would be spanked if I did not keep up my end. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joey Posted November 26, 2017 Report Share Posted November 26, 2017 I only do life sentences for Asian mistresses. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dannyboy Posted November 26, 2017 Report Share Posted November 26, 2017 I've heard of professional disciplinarians and life coaches over a number of years. There are Mistress who can serve as life coaches or motivators, though I never asked a Mistress to act as a life coach or push me to some external goal. It may work for some, I do not criticize their existence or purpose. Dannyboy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Rey Posted November 27, 2017 Report Share Posted November 27, 2017 I have played the role of a life coach with a submissive man at the FF. If he slipped up on attaining his goals he would come in for an intense series of punishments to remind him to stay focused. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Zora Jin Posted December 3, 2017 Report Share Posted December 3, 2017 I have seen a number of professional disciplinarians offer life coaching services. Most do not consider themselves dommes since most of them just focus on spanking. The spanking they offer is both for fetishes and for resolving past wrongs. But many offer it with life coaching to help reach goals such as quitting bad habits, losing weight, motivation to advance in career etc. My question is has anyone tried life coaching in this manner? Did it work or help in achieving the goal? Did you stop with the service once the goal was achieved? I never tried this but was curious if this was effective or did it just end up as another way to satisfy a fetish on a regular basis. Lol why don't you try it out and report back to us? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Mistress Alexia Zito Posted December 3, 2017 Report Share Posted December 3, 2017 This is truly fascinating, I had never heard of disciplinarian separate from a mistress. I definitely think I could be more motivated to eat better and exercise more if I knew I would be spanked if I did not keep up my end. I wonder what this means for those who *enjoy* being spanked, are you more likely to disobey in hopes for a “reward”/“punishment”? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Sophia Katz Posted December 4, 2017 Report Share Posted December 4, 2017 I wonder what this means for those who *enjoy* being spanked, are you more likely to disobey in hopes for a “reward”/“punishment”? hahaha the bratty sub. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Justine Shankar Posted December 4, 2017 Report Share Posted December 4, 2017 This is truly fascinating, I had never heard of disciplinarian separate from a mistress. I definitely think I could be more motivated to eat better and exercise more if I knew I would be spanked if I did not keep up my end. I can definitely see how we could be uniquely motivating, shall we say What about this dynamic appeals to you all, if you've thought about it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaveslave Posted December 6, 2017 Report Share Posted December 6, 2017 I wonder what this means for those who *enjoy* being spanked, are you more likely to disobey in hopes for a “reward”/“punishment”? Mistress Zito, I would think most "enjoy" being spanked to a certain extent or with certain implements, probably for it to be true punishment there would have to be an implement or more than a sub would consider pleasurable Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaveslave Posted December 6, 2017 Report Share Posted December 6, 2017 I can definitely see how we could be uniquely motivating, shall we say What about this dynamic appeals to you all, if you've thought about it? Mistress Shankar, I'm a person who has on and off exercised for a long time and I know I should do it more. I think having to report to a beautiful dominatrix and come clean about whether I exercised and then have to step on the scale in front of her would be very exotic it's combining the pleasure of serving a mistress with trying to be healthy....I think also if you get a punishment that goes home with you it can also be a great reminder...like if you get an extra hard spanking that hurts when you sit down, or if you are put into orgasm denial or shaved some where you see it.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Zora Jin Posted December 10, 2017 Report Share Posted December 10, 2017 I wanted to see if anyone recommended it first . It doesn't look like anyone has done it though. Now I'm curious to see if it would work. Are you more interested in the spankings rather than the actual life coaching? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theDumbMule Posted December 11, 2017 Author Report Share Posted December 11, 2017 Now I'm curious to see if it would work. Are you more interested in the spankings rather than the actual life coaching? At this point yes. I'm not sure how effective the coaching would be if I went wanting the spanking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaveslave Posted December 11, 2017 Report Share Posted December 11, 2017 Now I'm curious to see if it would work. Are you more interested in the spankings rather than the actual life coachinMis Mistress Jin, I'm really fascinated about being held accountable for exercise or weight loss, but I think for it to really work the spankings couldn't be all pleasurable they would have to cause some pain where i'd be motivated to not want them to do that level again Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Sophia Katz Posted December 11, 2017 Report Share Posted December 11, 2017 At this point yes. I'm not sure how effective the coaching would be if I went wanting the spanking. For someone who enjoys spankings, it wouldn't be terribly effective if what you were going for is adverse conditioning. In that case, spankings/a Fortress visit might be good as a reward for achieving goals. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Zora Jin Posted December 17, 2017 Report Share Posted December 17, 2017 At this point yes. I'm not sure how effective the coaching would be if I went wanting the spanking. Why don't you come here for a proper spanking? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theDumbMule Posted December 17, 2017 Author Report Share Posted December 17, 2017 Why don't you come here for a proper spanking? I just need to save up some cash to make the trip back to NYC for my spanking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craic Posted December 21, 2017 Report Share Posted December 21, 2017 I wonder what this means for those who *enjoy* being spanked, are you more likely to disobey in hopes for a “reward”/“punishment”? Yes, given many of us enjoy a sound spanking this is a very good question. I've heard of a life coach where the spanking is considered a positive reward for achieving goals. When not achieving goals, the goals and plan for achieving them can be revisited with a motivational spanking for the next attempt. Either way we get the spanking! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThayerBrown Posted December 21, 2017 Report Share Posted December 21, 2017 I have used this method repeatedly. It is very effective if both the client and the counselor understand each other. I am happy to share what I have learned. On the physical plain, this has worked with me under the influence of a hypnotist and with a very close friend of mine. The major command is no orgasm is allowed until the counselor grants permission. This is driven home by a command to edge repeatedly everyday to remind myself what I will be able to enjoy again when I succeed. It requires a high degree of control. The second stage is defining the goals in detail and establishing a method to record success and failure. Success is not rewarded. Failure is punished. Two punishments work particularly good for me. I suspect this is quite personalized. For me, the first punishment is whipping or paddling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThayerBrown Posted December 21, 2017 Report Share Posted December 21, 2017 To continue. In order to insure that I am really trying to do my best there is a particular exercise that I have found to be useful. Again, I am not required to succeed , but simply to show improvement and to remind me of the difficulty of succeeding. I am doing this now under the direction of my hypnotist. One day every two weeks ( which usually turns out to be Saturday), I am not allowed to pee when I wake up. I am required to drink coffee water, etc as I usually do. Except I must drink at least one cup of liquid per hour. I am also required to stay naked when in my apartment. And I am forbidden from voluntarily peeing. If there are drips or squirts, I have to deal with it. But when the time comes that I am really going to fail, I have to dress and go out on the streets and fail there so it is obvious to a close observer. Once I get back, I have to strip again and drink two cups of water and it begins again. It ends at 24 hours from when I woke up. The one thing that is completely forbidden is peeing in a toilet. During the day, I am required to clean my apartment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThayerBrown Posted December 21, 2017 Report Share Posted December 21, 2017 To continue. I have to be on my hands and knees when I am cleaning the floors of my apartment. Bathrooms and the kitchen are cleaned with a toothbrush. Everything must be cleaned. Water is always running so I can hear it. I have to shower as usual. Exercise as usual. etc. It works. It is humiliating and difficult, but worth it. I am wondering if any of your experts can think of anything that might augment it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Zora Jin Posted December 24, 2017 Report Share Posted December 24, 2017 I just need to save up some cash to make the trip back to NYC for my spanking. LOL we'll all be here waiting to give you a well deserved spanking when you return Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Jane Li Posted December 25, 2017 Report Share Posted December 25, 2017 I've never heard of this either but would love to learn more. Is it common? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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