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13 hours ago, Mistress Kang said:

How does drinking water help (serious question)?

Dear Mistress,

Drinking water / sufficient hydration would result in a greater amount of semen, to an extent. Particularly in the example above (the other end of the spectrum), it would also help avoid dehydration and fatigue over the 11 hour period and not result in the finale being an anti-climax/disappointment after all of that effort!

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14 hours ago, kevybaby said:

No stupid questions when it comes to edging! So, (places hands together on lap) when a man edges for long periods of time (hours, not minutes), it is important to keep the bladder flushing out consistently. The reason for this is that semen that is not released through orgasm ends up either getting peed out, or stuck in the urethra - which can cause a UTI. By constantly peeing out the semen that has not been released, one avoids a UTI and the negative side effects that come with it. I am a veritable wellspring of knowledge when it comes to edging, so don't hesitate to ask me anything else. No stupid questions!

And here I thought you were just another pretty body with a crazy mind LOL No, but seriously, that was informative. Thanks.

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3 hours ago, Mistress Kang said:

And here I thought you were just another pretty body with a crazy mind LOL No, but seriously, that was informative. Thanks.

"Life's barely long enough to get good at one thing. Gotta be careful what you get good at." - Rust Cohle, True Detective

I got good at edging. 

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On 1/7/2019 at 10:49 PM, kevybaby said:

No stupid questions when it comes to edging! So, (places hands together on lap) when a man edges for long periods of time (hours, not minutes), it is important to keep the bladder flushing out consistently. The reason for this is that semen that is not released through orgasm ends up either getting peed out, or stuck in the urethra - which can cause a UTI. By constantly peeing out the semen that has not been released, one avoids a UTI and the negative side effects that come with it. I am a veritable wellspring of knowledge when it comes to edging, so don't hesitate to ask me anything else. No stupid questions!

Sorry for the dumb question but edging involves coming to the point of climax but not being allowed to finish?

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On 1/5/2019 at 5:47 PM, tokyocanelover said:

Tokyo and Hong Kong too:)

I have assumed, based on BDSM clips from Japan, that sensual D/s is found less in Japan and that BDSM play there would tend to be more extreme, either in pain or degradation.  Am I wrong on this?

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On 1/2/2019 at 12:17 PM, Footboi12171 said:

LA- doms more laid back

Chicago- has a great fetish scene and most Doms that do FTT

Vegas- very weak and not much of a scene

NYC- has great Doms but be careful they are not as sincere

 

Not surprised to hear that about Vegas.  I suspect they have mostly 'escorts with whips' rather than dommes.    As to NYC...'not as sincere'?  Can you elaborate?.

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Interesting thread. In terms of other regions of the world, it really varies. In general, Asia has a great scene-Tokyo and H/K in particular. There is a lot going on in H/K and Australia (Sydney and Melbourne); however, the kind and swing scenes seem to be intertwined in any of the old British comonwealth areas! 

Insofar as the US goes, it's def San Francisco (greater bay area) and NYC at the top. LA is tame nowadays. I've not discovered much in Chicago (Doesn't mean it's not there though!). 

One note-there was mention of NY Dom's not being sincere. That's exactly why/how I found the Fortress! The other places were, literally, a joke.

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On 2/3/2019 at 12:40 PM, Rainsford said:

Interesting thread. In terms of other regions of the world, it really varies. In general, Asia has a great scene-Tokyo and H/K in particular. There is a lot going on in H/K and Australia (Sydney and Melbourne); however, the kind and swing scenes seem to be intertwined in any of the old British comonwealth areas! 

Insofar as the US goes, it's def San Francisco (greater bay area) and NYC at the top. LA is tame nowadays. I've not discovered much in Chicago (Doesn't mean it's not there though!). 

One note-there was mention of NY Dom's not being sincere. That's exactly why/how I found the Fortress! The other places were, literally, a joke.

Amen on the sincerity. Can’t comment on the whole fortress or the whole of NYC. But having now attended a variety of events and dungeons across NYC. There really is a difference. And when I saw the word ‘Sincerity’ I was like YES. That is the right word ?

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9 hours ago, Lockednwaiting said:

Amen on the sincerity. Can’t comment on the whole fortress or the whole of NYC. But having now attended a variety of events and dungeons across NYC. There really is a difference. And when I saw the word ‘Sincerity’ I was like YES. That is the right word ?

Explain it though what were your experiences that were insincere

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On 1/7/2019 at 5:00 PM, kevybaby said:

They suppress it. https://www.whatsonweibo.com/fifty-shades-vulgar-bdsm-lifestyle-slammed-chinese-media/

That article also mentioned the fifty shades movies (I know they're supposed to be terrible but still) were actually blocked from releasing in mainland China. And the ways journalists described this couple that the article about... I think it's safe to say that they are less open to bdsm in China by and large. 

Yeah, it’s very heavily suppressed :( I think most dommes are independent and are legally considered criminal prostitutes.

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On 2/22/2019 at 8:10 PM, kevybaby said:

Explain it though what were your experiences that were insincere

Walking into a session with someone who sounds like they read the first two sentences of a five sentence session request who then asks for a list of things to try in the session. And before you’ve started already looks kinda bored. Made it feel like the kink equivalent of a coin operated Domme dispensing machine. The actual session wasn’t that bad because once we started chatting things improved but it lacked any attempt at authenticity for like the first 20-30mins. Granted there’s always some feeling out period but it felt so unreal. I have heard the flip of this complaint and recognize it can be difficult in a first session to do it cold so to speak. Maybe others have just made it look easy. 

Dinner with a couple of NYC pro dommes who were friends of the person I was dating talking about their views on kink. (I self censored here - just because calling people out anonymously isn’t cool and might reflect their real views). But it was 99% about the dollars and Other cities I’ve been there were plenty of people who did it more for the $$ but they at least got into the kinks out of professional interest if nothing else. It was enlightening. But kinda depressing. Again. I’ve met people with some bad reasons for being into kink. This wasn’t that bad. Just came across as lacking any authenticity.

A kink party in someone’s apartment which was kind of like speed dating for subs and Doms. But throughout it I met 2 ladies I got on with and they were both from different places other than NYC. And they spent more than half the time talking about their kinks and interests. The rest of the evening I found myself quietly drinking more than normal because I was struggling to connect with anyone there because the sentiment was - I’m amazing. You should come session with me. Then you’ll see. And when I asked why or what they liked it seemed like they really struggled to articulate anything. Again. Granted. Potentially awkward social situation and other contributing factors. But it was just an overall feeling. And I walked home wondering why I felt that so strongly.

This could all be grossly unfair as a representation of the scene in NYC. And I’m sure not true for everybody. But those were my experiences for a couple of months before I came to the Fortress. And (without being sycophantic). Had the quite the opposite experience. 

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