Crying In Session

[Mistress Kang]

Have you ever cried in session? What happened to make you cry? How did you feel? 

[kevybaby]

I've cried during like 4 or 5 sessions and wanted to cry but not been able to in probably the rest (if not most of them, sometimes I do just have a fun session). The most I ever cried in a session or in my entire life was during an obedience training type session with Mistress Shankar. And yeah it just cut through to a lot of truth and stuff and it was intense and also I'd been wearing chastity for like 3 days before and I was all sexually frustrated due to that so there were different factors. And I definitely learned (at least some things) from it but it was unbelievably painful. 

[kevybaby]

And I cried during a session with Mistress Zito a little bit because I couldn't process how beautiful it all was and I didn't know that something so good could exist so I resorted to crying like a 5 year old

[risotto]

I never have.  I wish I could, really.  I cry all the time at bad movies.  And I can't watch movies at all if a dog dies.  Fortunately, there's a web site for checking that.

[Dannyboy]

7 hours ago, Mistress Kang said:

Have you ever cried in session? What happened to make you cry? How did you feel? 

You should know.

Dannyboy

[theDumbMule]

I'm not a crier.  I wouldn't mind crying in a session.  I think it would be a good release and another way to let go in a session.

[Mistress Kang]

3 hours ago, Dannyboy said:

You should know.

Dannyboy

I know.

[kevybaby]

Fuckin' A

[questionmarks]

I cry all the time, including in session. Sometimes it's just teary-eyed wistfulness, sometimes I bawl. The first time I cried in session was because the whole session was just too much for me. It was only my second session ever, and my first double session, and those have typically ended with me agitated and overwhelmed. I've cried from anger in session, from pain, from joy, from affection, and from good old fashioned sadness. I'll never forget when Rey said, "I've never seen you this sad." It made me all the sadder. Some tears feel good, or, at least, they feel like a need; cleansing. Some tears just make the pain—physical or emotional—all the more poignant.

[Mistress Kang]

41 minutes ago, questionmarks said:

I cry all the time, including in session. Sometimes it's just teary-eyed wistfulness, sometimes I bawl. The first time I cried in session was because the whole session was just too much for me. It was only my second session ever, and my first double session, and those have typically ended with me agitated and overwhelmed. I've cried from anger in session, from pain, from joy, from affection, and from good old fashioned sadness. I'll never forget when Rey said, "I've never seen you this sad." It made me all the sadder. Some tears feel good, or, at least, they feel like a need; cleansing. Some tears just make the pain—physical or emotional—all the more poignant.

Since you cry all the time, is it less special when you cry in session? How do you define the importance of each bawl?

[Dannyboy]

8 hours ago, kevybaby said:

Fuckin' A

Big Girls Don't Cry.

Dannyboy

[Mistress Kang]

52 minutes ago, Dannyboy said:

Big Girls Don't Cry.

Dannyboy

..doh-on't cry-iy-iy..

[Outcast]

I cry like Niagra Falls, and those who'll tell don't know and those who know won't tell......

[jpcpat]

Most vividly I remember a session in my mid 20's not long after a breakup. Mistress said some damn random thing or other and it reminded me of my ex, and all of a sudden I was done being strong. It felt lie putting down a big bag of heavy, pointy bricks that had been digging into my back. Yep, you're gonna pick it up later, but the break is nice, and you're going to leave a few of those bricks behind. Mistress was amazing with me processing all that.   

[questionmarks]

19 hours ago, Mistress Kang said:

Since you cry all the time, is it less special when you cry in session? How do you define the importance of each bawl?

Oh no, I'm not desensitized to tears. One of the most powerful aspects of crying, for me, is the fact that it so often can open up emotions and thoughts that otherwise would've remained unconscious or undefined—if one is attentive to that sort of thing. Part of the question of the importance or meaning of each bawl is what opens up the floodgates to begin with, but then also what comes pouring out. Bawling out of affection, for example, is quite a surprising experience... to allow myself to wax poetic a bit, I'd say it feels a bit like what I imagine growing pains would be like for a blossoming flower, if a flower were a sentient being. It's like, "Oh, hi, this is me! Ouch! Beautiful!" 

I feel we are always becoming, always emerging. There is no finality. If self-awareness is not dynamic, then it's really just an attachment to a diagnosis. A lot of people seek thrills in order to feel alive, and I like a good thrill now and then, but, at least for me, it works at least as well to hone and maintain the sensitivity it takes to feel the full range of reasons to cry, and feelings expressed through tears, and unconscious desires and fears, and so on, that emerge in that vulnerable state. 

I mean, to keep it brief and finally shut up, I might just say that each bawl sort of determines its own importance; it's just my job to pay a little attention.

[franknot]

16 hours ago, Mistress Kang said:

..doh-on't cry-iy-iy..

Cool ... Didn't think you listened to the oldies.. 

Or is it just collateral damage from mom & dad?

[Mistress Kang]

10 minutes ago, franknot said:

Cool ... Didn't think you listened to the oldies.. 

Or is it just collateral damage from mom & dad?

I truly love the oldies. I guess my father liked it. He had all the CDs from those Time Life commercials LOL

[questionmarks]

On 2/7/2019 at 1:03 PM, Mistress Kang said:

Have you ever cried in session? What happened to make you cry? How did you feel? 

Have you ever cried in session?

[Mistress Kang]

On 2/9/2019 at 11:09 AM, questionmarks said:

Oh no, I'm not desensitized to tears. One of the most powerful aspects of crying, for me, is the fact that it so often can open up emotions and thoughts that otherwise would've remained unconscious or undefined—if one is attentive to that sort of thing. Part of the question of the importance or meaning of each bawl is what opens up the floodgates to begin with, but then also what comes pouring out. Bawling out of affection, for example, is quite a surprising experience... to allow myself to wax poetic a bit, I'd say it feels a bit like what I imagine growing pains would be like for a blossoming flower, if a flower were a sentient being. It's like, "Oh, hi, this is me! Ouch! Beautiful!" 

I feel we are always becoming, always emerging. There is no finality. If self-awareness is not dynamic, then it's really just an attachment to a diagnosis. A lot of people seek thrills in order to feel alive, and I like a good thrill now and then, but, at least for me, it works at least as well to hone and maintain the sensitivity it takes to feel the full range of reasons to cry, and feelings expressed through tears, and unconscious desires and fears, and so on, that emerge in that vulnerable state. 

I mean, to keep it brief and finally shut up, I might just say that each bawl sort of determines its own importance; it's just my job to pay a little attention.

I recall you crying in one of our sessions but did not know exactly why. I now have a better understanding of what and how much crying does for you. 

[Mistress Kang]

1 hour ago, questionmarks said:

Have you ever cried in session?

No, and I never would, just like I would never cry during or after sex. I can completely understand crying as the submissive, but the emotions released during session do not invoke tears for me. It's just different as the dominant.

[SoIntoYou]

8 minutes ago, Mistress Kang said:

No, and I never would, just like I would never cry during or after sex. I can completely understand crying as the submissive, but the emotions released during session do not invoke tears for me. It's just different as the dominant.

Can you expand on this Mistress Kang?

I suppose, as a dominant, you can be feeling any number of emotions - joy, pity, the simple pleasure of dominance of another.

[Mistress Kang]

On 2/10/2019 at 2:51 PM, SoIntoYou said:

Can you expand on this Mistress Kang?

I suppose, as a dominant, you can be feeling any number of emotions - joy, pity, the simple pleasure of dominance of another.

Expand on the emotions I feel during session? The ones you listed, joy, pity, simple plasures of dominance, but none that would bring me to tears. Crying is reserved for extreme sadness like death. I know some people cry out of joy, but not me. 

[Mistress Kang]

Just now, Mistress Kang said:

Expand on the emotions I feel during session? The ones you listed, joy, pitty, simple plasures of dominance, but none that would bring me to tears. Crying is reserved for extreme sadness like death. I know some people cry out of joy, but not me. 

My god imagine if I did cry out of joy? I'm a naturally happy person. I'd be in tears constantly LOL

[Jeriko13]

No. I can be emotional with the right stimuli, but sessions don't provide that reaction. 

[Mistress Kang]

3 minutes ago, Jeriko13 said:

No. I can be emotional with the right stimuli, but sessions don't provide that reaction. 

Yeah, I can't imagine any crying in our scenes LOL Too much stuttering! But can there be (ever TOO much)??!!