Beginner questions

[Kingrags]

I have zero experience with BDSM but am curious.  Do total novices come to the FF or is it mostly for experienced players?  Is this the right place if you are looking to try it out?  I guess that I'm generally interested in being restrained, teased...but am mostly interested in trying something new.  

[ConsentOptional]

I think it's an especially good place for novices.  First, because these are real dominatrices.  You've thought about this for a long time.  You don't want to share that first experience to someone who hasn't. 

Because we've had a long purely psychological (vs physical) experience of BDSM before we ever session, we often think we can handle more than we can or that we'll like certain things more than it turns out we do.  Or that we absolutely don't want to try things that later turn out to be quite high on the hotness scale.  For all that, you need someone who is committed to the craft.  They'll be reading you, and you need to be read. 

Speaking of reading - look around, interact.  It's a highly articulate group.  Yes, they are comfortable handling long-term players.  But you don't have to be one.  Novice cherry-breaking with sensitivity, style and enthusiasm will be freely offered.  I would seriously consider doing 2 hours rather than 1 if you can.  Much to explore.  Have fun.

[kevybaby]

I'm somewhat of a legend around here, so IIII can take it from here... yes you can just show up with 0 experinece, that's what I did anyway. You find out what interests you and how interested you are as you go along. 

[Mistress Kang]

14 hours ago, kevybaby said:

I'm somewhat of a legend around here, so IIII can take it from here... yes you can just show up with 0 experinece, that's what I did anyway. You find out what interests you and how interested you are as you go along. 

"I'm somewhat of a legend...I'll take it from here..." You crack me up at least every other post LOL

[submale89]

You honestly couldn't pick a better place. Everything is organized with painstaking (heh) care and you will have an amazing initiation into BDSM.

I did.

[kevybaby]

6 hours ago, Mistress Kang said:

"I'm somewhat of a legend...I'll take it from here..." You crack me up at least every other post LOL

Not sure what's funny about the truth but alright haha. I'm... kevybaby. 

[Dannyboy]

On 3/2/2019 at 9:34 PM, kevybaby said:

I'm somewhat of a legend around here, so IIII can take it from here... yes you can just show up with 0 experinece, that's what I did anyway. You find out what interests you and how interested you are as you go along. 

Hey! What am I? Chopped liver?

Dannyboy

p.s. LOL

 

[Kingrags]

Ok - convinced.  I will work up the courage and book a session

[Mistress Kang]

On 3/3/2019 at 7:05 PM, kevybaby said:

Not sure what's funny about the truth but alright haha. I'm... kevybaby. 

There's always humor in the truth! As an appreciator of comedy how can you overlook this! 

[kevybaby]

5 hours ago, Mistress Kang said:

There's always humor in the truth! As an appreciator of comedy how can you overlook this! 

Yeah

[atlhiker]

I highly recommend setting dominance and submission aside for the first few sessions and just use them to explore various types of sensation play that the dominant you see has skill in. 

The second is to look for and do mental work to find your core or kernel kink, which means looking for what emotional state do you tend to want to inhabit during and after your scene. 

Finally, recognize this is not a competition. Plenty of subs on this board and others have been playing for years, its not about the number of cane strokes or needles, its about connection for most. 

[Kingrags]

Thanks for all of the help.  Had my first session with Mistress Rey today and it was fantastic.  Really happy that I went forward despite being super nervous.   I cant wait to do it again