Intention and Obstacles in BDSM

[noPainNoGain]

Hello All -

I have what might seem like an odd topic / questions. I have been attracted to BDSM for years and had a session with Mistress Kang a few years. It was a great expierence, but it didn't totally click.  But, I am still really attracted to BDSM, particularly Mistress Kang, and I am trying to figure out if I am really attracted to BDSM or just Mistress Kang.

Is BDSM a drama or an experience?

If it is a drama:

• What is the intetion of the submission / what does the submissive hope to achieve from a session?
• Is it physical or emotion pleasure received from the misstress?
• Is pain the obstacle or is it the misstress herself?
• Is it a tradegy? Does the submissive always fail to acieve their intention?

If it is an experience:

• Is it just spending time with the mistress?
• Is it the expierence of the enduring the pain or hummiltion?

Thanks

[Dannyboy]

Questions on this general topic come up from time to time. Many of us have answers and many don't. For myself the fantasy and the reality were at odds until a later time in my life when the fantasy, the emotional needs and the nature of the sessions clicked. I no longer question or analyze my interests and/or participation in the scene. It serves a need which I have no reason to explain to myself of justify to others. At this late stage of my life my physical ability has diminished and other profound issues of life are before me. The fantasies are still present. I like the way you analyze and pose the question. I'm sure the answers will be clear to you in time.

Dannyboy

[kevybaby]

My saying goes "no pain no gain." That's been my experience at least. Hope that helps.