Ffsbran Posted October 31, 2020 Report Share Posted October 31, 2020 I've been lurking here a while and I've definitely got an interest in exploring and submitting to the ladies at the fortress but just need that last kick to hit send and book an appointment. Any advice for someone with no experience whatsoever? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voyage Posted October 31, 2020 Report Share Posted October 31, 2020 3 hours ago, Ffsbran said: I've been lurking here a while and I've definitely got an interest in exploring and submitting to the ladies at the fortress but just need that last kick to hit send and book an appointment. Any advice for someone with no experience whatsoever? I would continue to visit this message board regularly and learn more about the great expanse of BDSM and where you might comfortably fit in. And understand that the Fortress is as good as it gets as far as professionalism in the BDSM scene goes. These ladies are experts at dealing with first-timers and they will quickly ascertain exactly what you need and truly want, perhaps before you do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dannyboy Posted October 31, 2020 Report Share Posted October 31, 2020 The advice I always give is to make that call and take that step. You will never regret it. You will find out on your own that the last push to your knees is unnecessary. When you are confronted by the beauty of a Fortress Mistress your knees will buckle by themselves. Dannyboy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
need to serve Posted October 31, 2020 Report Share Posted October 31, 2020 What is the hold up? Is it emotional, like a fear to walk into your kink because it may bring shame? Is it fear that you may get injured or damaged? Is it a fear that you may in some way be "outed"? Screw the fear. Walk through it, you will be fine. I have been there on all 3 of these counts and the reward has far, far outweighed my perceived risk. Fear skews my perception to an extreme. Let it go.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karl Posted November 15, 2020 Report Share Posted November 15, 2020 I can relate to your hesitation. I had seen BDSM porn before moving to NYC, and it took a while to sink in that some of the women advertising in the scene magazines (this was pre-Internet) were real live people within a couple miles of me, and that I could do this in real life. Maybe the obstacle, for guys like us, is that it's such a departure from anything we've done before. Anyway, I continued to do nothing more than think about it. Finally, I asked myself "What's the worst that could happen." I called a couple numbers and asked some stupid newbie questions. All were answered patiently. (So one specific bit of advice: Don't be afraid of looking stupid by asking basic questions. You can't possibly ask a question that's so stupid or so basic that it's new to them.) With a better idea of what was involved, I made an appointment. About 20 minutes into my first session, I was filled with regret. The regret was that I hadn't done it much sooner. You posted a couple weeks ago. I'm sure I'm not the only reader who'd love to hear an update from you. If you took the plunge, what was it like? If you're still hesitating, where are you on your journey? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wallyw Posted November 18, 2020 Report Share Posted November 18, 2020 I do believe this is a psychological problem Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ffsbran Posted December 3, 2020 Author Report Share Posted December 3, 2020 Sorry for the delayed reply but had a truly terrible month, which is saying something for this year. I'm looking to book something in the next two weeks and will update then! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Von Dietz Posted May 10, 2021 Report Share Posted May 10, 2021 On 12/2/2020 at 9:59 PM, Ffsbran said: Sorry for the delayed reply but had a truly terrible month, which is saying something for this year. I'm looking to book something in the next two weeks and will update then! I hear this so often. From subs that have finally made their way from the confines of their minds, to my presence kneeling beneath me, right where they know that they belong. “I have been thinking about this for months/years Mistress.. Can’t believe it took me so long!” I always sense the relief, the calm, energy shifts, the complete trust. You’ve left everything else behind. Time does not exist. You just need to make the time, let me do the rest.. MVD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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