nyisles Posted May 11, 2011 Report Share Posted May 11, 2011 Just curious on everyone's opinion... In my mind I am more of a masochist than I have experienced. In fact at times I have safeworded out of fear sooner then I wanted to and have kicked myself in the ass mentally over it. I know I can play at levels higher then I have, but yet I have not reached that yet. Perhaps I haven't met the right Domme just yet. Or perhaps my mind wants more then I can handle. I am sure there are ways to move past this such as building a relationship with a Domme and trusting them enough to play without safe words. I am curious if anyone else has experienced what I am going through and how they have addressed it and handled it. B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joey Posted May 12, 2011 Report Share Posted May 12, 2011 Just curious on everyone's opinion... In my mind I am more of a masochist than I have experienced. In fact at times I have safeworded out of fear sooner then I wanted to and have kicked myself in the ass mentally over it. I know I can play at levels higher then I have, but yet I have not reached that yet. Perhaps I haven't met the right Domme just yet. Or perhaps my mind wants more then I can handle. I am sure there are ways to move past this such as building a relationship with a Domme and trusting them enough to play without safe words. I am curious if anyone else has experienced what I am going through and how they have addressed it and handled it. B i think it best to negotiate levels of pain beforehand with your domme thus rendering safewords passe. you obviously want pain at a higher level. try this each and every session: ask your domme to raise the bar on pain and you will soon find your pain tolerance threshold rising. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
akiravn1 Posted May 12, 2011 Report Share Posted May 12, 2011 Just curious on everyone's opinion... In my mind I am more of a masochist than I have experienced. In fact at times I have safeworded out of fear sooner then I wanted to and have kicked myself in the ass mentally over it. I know I can play at levels higher then I have, but yet I have not reached that yet. Perhaps I haven't met the right Domme just yet. Or perhaps my mind wants more then I can handle. I am sure there are ways to move past this such as building a relationship with a Domme and trusting them enough to play without safe words. I am curious if anyone else has experienced what I am going through and how they have addressed it and handled it. B nyisles, I believe that being open with a Domme and discussing this exact subject, then putting enough trust in the Player to deliver what is expected, should help to remedy the situation. These Dommes are extremely professional, so I am sure they would be able to help you move past what you have experienced in the past, as there clearly lies within you a desire to do so. I may be wrong, but I also get the impression that you tend to somewhat over think things and if that starts driving your whole thought process, you actually could end up being your own worst enemy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nyisles Posted May 13, 2011 Author Report Share Posted May 13, 2011 nyisles, I believe that being open with a Domme and discussing this exact subject, then putting enough trust in the Player to deliver what is expected, should help to remedy the situation. These Dommes are extremely professional, so I am sure they would be able to help you move past what you have experienced in the past, as there clearly lies within you a desire to do so. I may be wrong, but I also get the impression that you tend to somewhat over think things and if that starts driving your whole thought process, you actually could end up being your own worst enemy. I readily admit my mind is my worst enemy. I over think things to no end and it is something I need to get past. Thankfully the next week or so my mind will be pre-occupied elsewhere. I am also over analyzing since this will me by first visit to any type of professional. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EdgarAH Posted May 14, 2011 Report Share Posted May 14, 2011 I readily admit my mind is my worst enemy. I over think things to no end and it is something I need to get past. Thankfully the next week or so my mind will be pre-occupied elsewhere. I am also over analyzing since this will me by first visit to any type of professional. This will be the greatest for you. Your heart will be pounding for sure. Try to clear your head so that you remember everything. That first time is sure to be unforgettable. Get there, follow instructions, wait on your knees and your mistress will run the show. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Tran Posted May 19, 2011 Report Share Posted May 19, 2011 Just curious on everyone's opinion... In my mind I am more of a masochist than I have experienced. In fact at times I have safeworded out of fear sooner then I wanted to and have kicked myself in the ass mentally over it. I know I can play at levels higher then I have, but yet I have not reached that yet. Perhaps I haven't met the right Domme just yet. Or perhaps my mind wants more then I can handle. I am sure there are ways to move past this such as building a relationship with a Domme and trusting them enough to play without safe words. I am curious if anyone else has experienced what I am going through and how they have addressed it and handled it. B Safe words are good and usually necessary but I do see it as an "easy" way out. There are ways to push your subs limits and ways to making it a bit more difficult to use his safe word as some of my subs know. I do agree it is about trust and finding the right domme who knows how to push your limits..... But it does take time as relationships do not just build over night. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nyisles Posted May 20, 2011 Author Report Share Posted May 20, 2011 Safe words are good and usually necessary but I do see it as an "easy" way out. There are ways to push your subs limits and ways to making it a bit more difficult to use his safe word as some of my subs know. I do agree it is about trust and finding the right domme who knows how to push your limits..... But it does take time as relationships do not just build over night. I agree, and I think my visit to the fortress was the first step. Was nice to have you step into session... I definite have a "fear" of you and I even told Mistress Choi that you hit me as a pure sadist. Thanks for the marks, I'm smiling First time I ever had marks a few hours later... I don't mark easy. Happy Camper I am Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Trouble Baby Posted May 20, 2011 Report Share Posted May 20, 2011 I agree, and I think my visit to the fortress was the first step. Was nice to have you step into session... I definite have a "fear" of you and I even told Mistress Choi that you hit me as a pure sadist. Thanks for the marks, I'm smiling First time I ever had marks a few hours later... I don't mark easy. Happy Camper I am Always a pleasant surprise when another Mistress "drops in" on your session. Mistress Tran once came into one of my session but only to borrow some equipment. Didn't have time to hit me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Tran Posted May 20, 2011 Report Share Posted May 20, 2011 I agree, and I think my visit to the fortress was the first step. Was nice to have you step into session... I definite have a "fear" of you and I even told Mistress Choi that you hit me as a pure sadist. Thanks for the marks, I'm smiling First time I ever had marks a few hours later... I don't mark easy. Happy Camper I am Well I did enjoy giving the marks and like I said during my visit....If there are no marks then it most probably doesnt hurt hehehehe. I am glad you had a great visit and MChoi was a fabulous choice as well! Hopefully, MChoi and I will be able to see you again and, for me at least, for a longer visit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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