magdiver Posted May 27, 2009 Report Share Posted May 27, 2009 I'm just curious if anybody experiences a depression that hits a day or two after a BDSM session. I have heard that after the "high" of a session wears off that there is an almost equal depression that follows... I've heard about this and can understand why it would happen, but since I've never had a BDSM session, I don't have any first-hand information about this. If you feel a depression, do you think this is something that can be avoided or is it just a natural side effect of the high created from being in the presence of such intoxicating women as the women from the Fortress and then not being in their presence? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dannyboy Posted May 27, 2009 Report Share Posted May 27, 2009 I'm just curious if anybody experiences a depression that hits a day or two after a BDSM session. I have heard that after the "high" of a session wears off that there is an almost equal depression that follows... I've heard about this and can understand why it would happen, but since I've never had a BDSM session, I don't have any first-hand information about this. If you feel a depression, do you think this is something that can be avoided or is it just a natural side effect of the high created from being in the presence of such intoxicating women as the women from the Fortress and then not being in their presence? magdiver: First of all I would advise anyone with depression to seek medical advice to make sure there is no underlying physical cause and to get to the emotional basis of the depression. The Mistresses of the Fortress are not a substitute for and do not practice medicine without a license. Perhaps you should try a session and draw the answers from your own experiences. Some of us have experienced depressions in our own lives, independent from bdsm, and may have sessions during the course of the depression. It is my opinion that the phenomemon to which you allude relates to a depressed person who has a session and is temporarily elevated from the depression only to return to the original state a day or two later. Dannyboy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wleviner Posted June 1, 2009 Report Share Posted June 1, 2009 I have had a session with Mistress Kang and didn't experience anything depessing at all. I felt kinda like I conqured a fear by going there. I was so nervious but I booked it and flew from Florida there just for her. It was fantastic. The experience actually helped me become more open in my sex life overall. At home I have been able to more openly discuss things with my wife and now we take turns being dominate and submissive. We are also closer than ever. Previously, I was always dominate but wishing I could just let go of the control and enjoy the process. Also, I am a far better lover now. We have interesting sexual adventures with eachother that last 3-6 hours at a time 4-5 times a week (we work from home). We don't swing or anything, we actually enjoy eachother more than ever. I am a lot more gentle with her and more aggressive on an as needed (or desired) basis. That said, you may want to consider the reason you wish to have a session. For me it was to overcome a fear. Your reasons may be different and in that lies the opportunity to have a different experience. Every emotion has a different destination. I would believe that if you're on this forum, you are giving it serious thought and most likely you want to try it. Try thinking about the reasons stopping you and assess their value vs. your happiness. Good luck... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whiplash Posted June 3, 2009 Report Share Posted June 3, 2009 magdriver, I've heard people say that they are depressed or feel like they've crashed after a session. I've never experienced it and I've had hundreds of sessions. Almost always I feel elated for a long time after a session. It is more than a session high, rather I believe that I feel fulfilled because I'm able to express something that is a part of me. Unfortunately, I've never been involved in a lifestyle relationship and sessions and relationships with professional Dominas fill that void for me. So personally I would never feel depressed just because my session ended. But I can understand how someone could experience depression after a session if their session was a temporary high or simply a means of coping with a long term depression. Otherwise I don't see depression as a necessary by product of sessioning. whip Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
magdiver Posted June 5, 2009 Author Report Share Posted June 5, 2009 Life has it's up and downs for everyone. This is something I have been thinking about doing for over 20 years now, but have avoided it mainly for safety reasons. In my 20 years of reading and fantasizing about BDSM I've run across a few mentions about the depression thing and I just thought jeez... I don't want that... Isn't enough to be sore for a few days? Ms. Kang and the women who work at the Fortress are incredibly beautiful. It has been amazing that they have allowed us see them on video and hear their opinions in this message board. So far, this is helping me to see that these women aren't that scary (at least outside of the dungeon)... And Ms. Kang seems incredibly honest, smart and moral (at least in the business sense!). It's really helping me to break down that wall and think that I can do this... After all, a business like theirs must prefer repeat customers! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spockme Posted June 5, 2009 Report Share Posted June 5, 2009 Magdiver, I do not believe a session leads to depression . It can and does give you a high. If you get depressed I think it would be do to some emotional need a person has and not the session unless the Mistress is your lover also and you are having problems. I think with your curiosity a session would be good for you. Mistress Kang will know what and who to do it with ,she is fantastic . Go for it , You will not be sorry.Spockme Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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