Consideringasession Posted November 1, 2009 Report Share Posted November 1, 2009 I am considering coming in for a session at the Fetish Fortress, but I feel nervous about it. If you're in a long-term relationship or married, do you think that coming into the Fortress for a session is a serous betrayal? Is it the same as cheating? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whiplash Posted November 1, 2009 Report Share Posted November 1, 2009 I am considering coming in for a session at the Fetish Fortress, but I feel nervous about it. If you're in a long-term relationship or married, do you think that coming into the Fortress for a session is a serous betrayal? Is it the same as cheating? Everyone has their own opinion on that topic. Personally, since my SO has no interest in bdsm my only outlet for my bdsm desires is sessioning at the Fortress. I don't view it is as cheating since I don't sleep or have any sexual relations with other women. But not everyone feels that way. You have to answer that question for yourself. My advice is to do what feels right for you. The rest of us can't make this choice for you. As for the Fortress it is a wonderful place. If you decide to come in I suggest contact Mistress Kang and let Her help select the right Mistress for you or simply go with your own feeling about who is the correct choice for you. good luck, whip Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Posted November 1, 2009 Report Share Posted November 1, 2009 I think it depends on what kind of relationship you have with your girlfriend or wife. In some relationships the partner(s) might be okay with it, in others, not so much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Trouble Baby Posted November 1, 2009 Report Share Posted November 1, 2009 I am considering coming in for a session at the Fetish Fortress, but I feel nervous about it. If you're in a long-term relationship or married, do you think that coming into the Fortress for a session is a serous betrayal? Is it the same as cheating? Cas, Tough call. You'll have to make that decision for yourself. I'd keep it a secret though. Ray Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Consideringasession Posted November 1, 2009 Author Report Share Posted November 1, 2009 Thanks, all, for your replies. I'm on the cusp of booking a session, but am having trouble pulling the trigger. I've been looking at this website practically all day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dancespell98 Posted November 1, 2009 Report Share Posted November 1, 2009 Dear Considering a Session, Good question. My experience is that BDSM is a life changing experience. The Fortress is the best BDSM experience that I have ever had in my life and I have been doing this for thirty-five years. Once you have that session, then that session will beckon you for another, and another, and another! Best wishes and thanks for your honesty. Jessy Kang is a way of life that I crave for the rest of my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Ree Posted November 1, 2009 Report Share Posted November 1, 2009 Would this be your first visit to a BDSM dungeon? Even if not, it is understandable that you would be nervous. But don't worry, none of the Mistresses bite! (Unless you want them to, of course.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Consideringasession Posted November 2, 2009 Author Report Share Posted November 2, 2009 This would be my first time visiting a dungeon. I would be excited (thrilled, really) to visit the Fetish Fortress, but I feel morally dubious about it. Part of me feels that I owe it to myself, because the idea of being submissive turns me on in such a deep way and the mistresses are all so beautiful; I feel like I should try it once. But I'm concerned that it will leave me feeling guilty... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slaphappypuppy Posted November 2, 2009 Report Share Posted November 2, 2009 I am considering coming in for a session at the Fetish Fortress, but I feel nervous about it. If you're in a long-term relationship or married, do you think that coming into the Fortress for a session is a serous betrayal? Is it the same as cheating? First, I am sure the disclaimers all state it, but to re-emphasize there is no sex. Second, If you're looking for somebody else to tell you it's OK, that's the wrong approach ... that somebody should only be you. So long as your true intention is not cheating and you have every intention of staying loyal to the one you love, cause you love them, indulging in an interest I do not see as cheating. If you've been wanting to experiment and try this all your life, to not do so would be something you'll back look on forever. In addition, this really is quite a "life changing experience" for some. It was for me. In an ideal world people would not look down on BDSM, and we can all tell our SO and friends, and they would understand. But this is far from the case ... especially in America. Unfortunately, a man would be seen as inferior, degenerate, repulsive because he enjoys being at the underfoot and paddle end of a woman or cross dress despite the fact that he may at the same time be the commander of his personal, professional and social and love life and a humanitarian to boot. I think we all live a bit of a double life when it comes to BDSM, unfortunately. I currently only know of two women in my life that would even understand a man being into BDSM. And these are the only two who would not see this as cheating. They are rare very open minded women who do not see the world in just black and white. Some SO's see everything as cheating. If you have problems being honest with your SO about going out with the guys for a drink and coming home late, late nights of poker (even if you win), going skydiving, going to the strip club, etc. then you definitely don't want to mention a house of bondage. ( I just itemized what my friend's get in trouble with ... so sad) But again to deprive yourself of something you are interested in would be just that. I say give it a try. It's an hour, and the Dominas are experienced enough to know more than you and know what your range is. Your job is to know your initial interest and more importantly your initial limits ... which you should be willing to push, and the Dominas will know when to stop for your safety. Be honest to yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dannyboy Posted November 2, 2009 Report Share Posted November 2, 2009 I am considering coming in for a session at the Fetish Fortress, but I feel nervous about it. If you're in a long-term relationship or married, do you think that coming into the Fortress for a session is a serous betrayal? Is it the same as cheating? I would suggest that many clients are in long term relationships or are married. In some cases both parties are aware of the interest but probably in most it is secret. I perused the responses but my own comment is that each of us has to clear that hurdle in his own way. Even if one is not attached there is some other hurdle out there such as: is this behavior perverted and should I feel guilty or ashamed of it? I would believe that most of us can, at least, rationalize our behavior as a healthy outlet for feelings and propensities we may not even understand. You may find that if you don't attempt this experience now, the desire to try will always come back to you. If you elect to book a session you couldn't find a safer and more understanding environment to explore your own interests. The rest is up to you. Dannyboy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Zhao Posted November 2, 2009 Report Share Posted November 2, 2009 This would be my first time visiting a dungeon. I would be excited (thrilled, really) to visit the Fetish Fortress, but I feel morally dubious about it. Part of me feels that I owe it to myself, because the idea of being submissive turns me on in such a deep way and the mistresses are all so beautiful; I feel like I should try it once. But I'm concerned that it will leave me feeling guilty... Your moral dilemma is understandable, but remember.. You only live once, and while laying on your deathbed, You only regret the things you don't do. So with that being said, morals schmorals. xo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BIGBILL Posted November 2, 2009 Report Share Posted November 2, 2009 When Bill Clinton went to the Fortress he asked the same question. It depends on your defination of "sex" Dude, don't think so much and just go and enjoy yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 2, 2009 Report Share Posted November 2, 2009 I view strip clubs, internet porn, dungeons, etc. as marital aids much like a drink a lunch time helps you get through a tough day at work. You have desires your partner can't fulfill and don't want to leave them because of it, so you seek them out elsewhere in a safe, sane, consensual manner with or without their knowledge is up to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Milkdud Posted November 2, 2009 Report Share Posted November 2, 2009 CAS Just to ad a little more food for thought. I find that not attending to those powerful, submissive desires by sessioning at the Fortress can negatively effect my relationship. Exploring those desires and fantasies you've barried for years in a safe, sane and consentual environment at the Fortress may even lead to sharing them and even integrating them one day in some manner into your sex life with your partner. I agree with Mistress Kang that it definitely can be a "marital aid." D/leatherwings This would be my first time visiting a dungeon. I would be excited (thrilled, really) to visit the Fetish Fortress, but I feel morally dubious about it. Part of me feels that I owe it to myself, because the idea of being submissive turns me on in such a deep way and the mistresses are all so beautiful; I feel like I should try it once. But I'm concerned that it will leave me feeling guilty... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Ahn Posted November 3, 2009 Report Share Posted November 3, 2009 I totally agree with mistress Kang. Although by booking and following through with a session would DEFINITELY place you in a sexually charged environment, you would not be engaging in a physically sexual experience (in the most conventional sense) Now of course there are some women that believe that even thinking is cheating, but I hope we can agree that such a statement is absurd. You cannot feel guilty about something that never happened and all of the ladies here at the Fortress are concious of boundaries, yours and our own. We would never want anyone leaving without a sense of elation nor would we let someone leave feeling dirty and vulgar (unless you want that, you cheeky slut ) I always think that honesty is the best policy, however not everyone has the luxury of being able to be completely honest with everyone around them. Ultimately the decision is yours. Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
monokuro Posted November 3, 2009 Report Share Posted November 3, 2009 CAS, Some people may have stricter moral codes or predispositions about marital aids or what defines an affair. Being honest is a good way. A better way though, is to be honest and prove your love by being around beautiful women yet only looking in your SO's eyes with the fiery passion that you married spawned your love for them. The world is not black and white, it isn't really shades of grey or colours of the rainbow. You cannot define it as right or wrong since those are heavily influenced by the beholder. Make a list or a gradient and plot out the reasons and consequences of actions, it may help you visualize what to do and how to make the best decision. Just don't make your simple pros and cons into a confusingly infuriating grid like one person I know, it really doesn't have to be that complicated. Your feelings, their reactions, your actions, your consequences. Positive and negative. Hope I helped, Monokuro Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bobsballs2003 Posted November 3, 2009 Report Share Posted November 3, 2009 I agree that if you feel the compulsion to experience the Fortress, then you need to do it. Just be aware, that a whole new dimension of your life will be opened up for you to explore....you will not be the same man you were before you entered. You will undoubtly gain more insights (and questions) into your own psyche. Good luck! ; ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Consideringasession Posted November 4, 2009 Author Report Share Posted November 4, 2009 Thank you all so much for your thoughtful responses. I really appreciate it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spockme Posted November 4, 2009 Report Share Posted November 4, 2009 I was in the same exact situation as you are now .I had a seven bypass operation and decided to try and see what my feelings would be . It was not easy for me to do . But I was so close to passing I thought I desereved it. I agree totally in what Dannyboy wrote. Mistress Kang will set you up accordingly and you will waqnt more. I would be at the Fortress every week if I could. It is a great place ,clean secure and very well run . The Mistresses are all beautiful and know what they are doing.It is worth exploring .Spockme Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Ahn Posted November 4, 2009 Report Share Posted November 4, 2009 Thank you all so much for your thoughtful responses. I really appreciate it. You're welcome. Always here to help :twisted: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
akiravn1 Posted November 5, 2009 Report Share Posted November 5, 2009 CAS, Some individuals have such a wide range of what they might consider cheating in a relationship, but I honestly believe that a number of activities, such as those which Mistress Kang had mentioned in her reply, would as she described it, be more likely looked upon as marital aids. However, the decision is of course ultimately yours to make. BTW...Mistress Ahn, I would always love for you to leave me feeling dirty and vulgar. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Ahn Posted November 5, 2009 Report Share Posted November 5, 2009 BTW...Mistress Ahn, I would always love for you to leave me feeling dirty and vulgar. :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: It's what I do best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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